WHAT’S EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY?

WHY DO WE GET EMOTIONALLY DEPENDENT?
Human nature is a complex network of wired networks, a network that controls the circuit of our body. That can be altered with a lot of mediums, mediums which are not supposed to be used. But we still use it and tackle our ragging emotions, our drowning sorrows and overheated arguments, sometimes we also need it to overlook the situation. To completely ignore our surroundings and just be yourself. And that’s dangerous. We are made to survive through any sort of discomfort and happiness, and that’s what makes us human.
But sometimes the sentiments go out of our hands and we do need to get the grip of it and then only we use drugs. Drugs make us feel heavenly, the continuous sensation of being on cloud nine. And who doesn’t want that? Substance abuse is very common and well addressed in our society, we avoid the people and feel pity for them who are druggie.
But there is one thing that we don’t talk about, another form of addiction that can be lethal and causes a lot of distress. Emotional dependency. Humans are by nature dependent individuals; we need a strong support system to function. We knit a close circle of like-minded people, with the same approach towards life and tag along to live it. But sometimes this becomes an obsession, the people we are with becomes our only source of reliance and we become psychologically dependent on them. And that’s when things start to crumble down. All the boxes which were strongly intact and kept together start to fall. First of all, goes the box of self-confidence, then goes the self-love, then goes the anger management, then emotional control and the list goes on and on. It’s worse than addiction, it’s worse than drug abuse, and it makes life a living wreck.
The most common thing to identify your emotional dependency is losing self-control. You just can’t control yourself; you always want that particular person besides you, always talking to them, sharing every tiny bit of the detail, taking false signals from a little bit of attitude change, ad overthinking. Overthinking is like petrol added to the fire of obsession.
Yes, you heard me right obsession. We get obsessed with people and that destroys us. And that destruction follows with everything going down the lane, it breaks you into a million pieces and your soul is shattered beyond repair, and that feeling sucks.
The main thing is that emotions stop functioning properly and if you are not in the company of that particular person, withdrawal symptoms start showing. It’s worse than having heartbreak.
Now the question here arises how to deal with it? How to detangle yourself from the cobweb of emotional dependency?
The answer is easy yet tricky; first and foremost, start accepting the fact that you are psychologically weak and you need help. Secondly, every mental stress needs to be acknowledged, and also the willingness to change and be a better attitude. Start practicing to love yourself, improve your self-esteem by accepting who you are, and giving affirmations to yourself. You need no one else to tell you the fact that you as a whole are an important human and nobody can replace you.
express your opinions and feelings, reject inappropriate and absurd demands promptly.
Don’t be completely submissive and also don’t be completely aggressive, maintain the balance. And that balance should be in everything, even in your thoughts and emotions. Just stop being completely oriented to a single person, grow your social circle, interact with people, engage with family and friends.
Life is beautiful and we are sometimes ignoring what’s right in front of us, and that is the sole reason for falling into this pit of unhappiness. Always remember, you are the most important person in your life, don’t spoil it by choosing the wrong path.